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All our consultants Reverend / Hindu Scholar / Imams / Rabbi / Sikh Scholar are supportive of same-sex unions and have a wealth of experience in this area from pre-marriage counselling to officiating marriage ceremonies across the globe.

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Q. Where can I find out more about same-sex marriage in Christianity?

A. Dr. John Boswell of Harvard University in his book ‘Same Sex Unions In Pre-Modern Europe’ lists in detail some same sex union ceremonies found in ancient church liturgical documents. The ceremony’s description can be found at this link

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Christian attitudes to same-sex marriage

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Q. Where can I find an officiate for our ceremony?

A. UK- the Lesbian and Gay Christian Movement have access to ministers and priests who are able to help. To cover their administration expenses there is a cost to the service. They can also be contacted to help find a gay Christian organisation in your part of the world if you are not in the UK.

Q. Can someone be involved in a same-sex relationship and still be a faithful Catholic?

A. Certainly yes, not as a matter of public Church teaching but only as a matter of conscience, only as a matter of personal application of the whole of Catholic teaching to their particular case.

In 1975 the Vatican published a Declaration on Certain Questions Concerning Sexual Ethics. One of those questions was homosexuality. A principal author of that document was Fr. Jan Visser, C.Ss.R. In an interview published in the January 30, 1976, edition of L'Europa, he said: "When one is dealing with people who are so deeply homosexual that they will be in serious personal and perhaps social trouble unless they attain a steady partnership within their homosexual lives, one can recommend them to seek such a partnership, and one accepts this relationship as the best they can do in their present situation." One of the very men who formulated the Vatican teaching that homogenital acts are wrong allows that in certain individual cases one may not only permit but even recommend a homosexual relationship.

Similarly, speaking about Catholics who dissent on Church teaching about contraception, the Canadian bishops wrote in 1968: "Since they are not denying any point of divine and Catholic faith nor rejecting the teaching authority of the Church, these Catholics should not be considered nor consider themselves cut off from the body of the faithful."

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Q. Do I need an Imam to officiate over a nikah?

A. A nikah is a contract for the purpose of marriage. It does not require an officiate but does require two adult witnesses, a written contract (nikahnama) and for it to be spoken out loud so the couple involved can give their consent to the marriage. The cultural traditions and ceremonies surrounding this event are extremely varied across the globe amongst different nations and countries, and it is often this part that adds the colour and uniqueness to your commitment.

Q. Where can I find an example same-sex Nikahnama?

A. With consultation of Imams and scholars from across the globe, you can download a uniquely designed same-sex nikah template and its accompanying notes and example appendix from Auntyonline.com.

Q. Can someone be involved in a same-sex relationship and still be a faithful Muslim?

A. A growing number of Muslims are saying yes to this, on condition the ethics of love, justice and respect spoken in the Qur’an are applied. For an extended theological understanding visit the well researched Safra Project website on Sexuality, Gender and Islam.

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Q. Where can I find out more about same-sex ceremonies in Judaism?

A. Liberal Judaism in the UK has various resources on same-sex unions, they also have a publication called B’rit Ahavah – Service of Commitment for Same- Sex couples, which is available from Liberal Judaism.

Q. Where can I find a Rabbi to officiate over our ceremony?

A. In the UK, Liberal Rabbis will only perform such a religious ceremony once the couple have registered their civil partnership. They can be contacted via Liberal Judaism.

Q. Where can I find an example same-sex Ketubah?

A. An online resource for a template can be found at this link.

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Q. Where can I find out more about same-sex unions in Sikhism?

A. Sarbat.net is useful website for Sikh lesbians and gays.

Q. Do I need an officiate for an Anand Karaj?

A. Anand Karaj usually takes place at a gurdwara (Sikh temple), although not necessarily so; the marriage may also be conducted at the bride's residence or any other place where the Guru Granth Sahib (Sikh holy book) has been installed. If the marriage takes place somewhere other than a gurdwara, the place must be suitable and the Guru Granth Sahib must be installed following the proper procedure. Any respected Sikh man or woman / Amritdhari (man or woman who is a strict adherent of Sikhism) may perform the marriage ceremony.

Q. Is the Lavaan appropriate for a same-sex union ceremony?

A. Lavaan is about the passage of 2 souls, intertwined, through the four stages of union. It is genderless - in fact, Waheguru is given the masculine form and both partners are talked about in the feminine. Gurbani is rife with this analogy - we are all 'wives' to Waheguru.

Translated into English the Lavari quartet or the Sikh epithalamium would read:

1. By the first nuptial circuiting

The Lord sheweth ye His Ordinance for the daily duties of wedded life: The Scriptures are the Word of the Lord, Learn righteousness, through them, And the Lord will free ye from sin. Hold fast to righteousness, Contemplate the Name of the Lord, Fixing it in your memory as the scriptures have prescribed. Devote yourselves to the Perfect and True Guru. And all your sins shall depart. Fortunate are those whose minds Are imbued with the sweetness of His Name, To them happiness comes without effort; The slave Nanak proclaimeth.

That in the first circling The marriage rite hath begun.

2. By the second nuptial circumambulation

Ye are to understand that the Lord Hath caused ye to meet the True Guru, The fear in your hearts has departed; The filth of selfness in your minds is washed away, By having the fear of God and by singing His praises I stand before Him with reverence, The Lord God is the soul of the universe! There is naught that He doth not pervade. Within us and without, there is One God only; In the company of saints Then are heard the songs of rejoicing. The slave Nanak proclaimeth.

That in the second circling Divine Music is heard.

3. In the third roundabout

There is a longing for the Lord And detachment from the world. In the company of the saints, By our great good fortune, We encounter the Lord. The Lord is found in His purity Through His exaltation, Through the singing of His hymns. By great good fortune we have risen. In the company of the saints Wherein is told the story Of the Ineffable Lord. The Holy Name echoes in the heart: Echoes and absorbs us. We repeat the Name of the Lord, Being blessed by a fortunate destiny Written from of old on our foreheads. The slave Nanak proclaimeth.

That in the third circling The love of God has been awakened in the heart.

4. In the fourth walk around The mind reaches to knowledge of the Divine And God is innerly grasped:

Through the Grace of the Guru We have attained with ease to the Lord; The sweetness of the Beloved Pervades us, body and soul. Dear and pleasing is the Lord to us: Night and day our minds are fixed on Him. By exalting the Lord We have attained the Lord: The fruit our hearts desired; The Beloved has finished His work. The soul, the spouse, delighteth in the Beloved's Name. Felicitations fill our minds; The Name rings in our hearts: The Lord God is united with His Holy Bride. The heart of the Bride flowers with His Name. The slave Nanak proclaimeth.

That in the fourth circling We have found the Eternal Lord. (GG, 773-74)

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